Step 6 is all about keeping the conversation going in the right direction. So many times, we get caught up in little tangents that serve no purpose other than to aggravate each other. You’re going to have to put on your big boy/girl pants for this one.
- Identify the actual issue.
- Ask for what you want.
- Tell them how it would make you feel.
- Shut up.
- Let it go. Not everyone is as good at communication as you are, so you have to be the mature one here. Don’t let yourself get pulled into a non-issue loop! “But is it really that important to regulate the roll installation?” Don’t be tempted to argue, just reiterate the actual issue and what you want. “What I’m really trying to say is I need you to show me support because it is important to me. When you support me even though it’s something you could go either way on, it makes me feel loved and respected.”
Remember, you can’t make them respond the way that you want them to. But you can make sure that the part of the conversation you’re responsible for is respectful, to the point, and solution-oriented. You deserve a high five for that.
Once you’re done high-fiving yourself, move on to step 7 and learn how to communicate EVEN BETTER! Stumbled upon this in the middle? Get back to step one of these communication tips by clicking here.