Archive for the ‘ Relationships ’ Category

Answer Me!

Ever feel like you’re talking to a brick wall? You’re the only person carrying the conversation and you get no response? You’re not alone. As we make our way upstairs in the Sound Relationship House, we hit the third floor, Turning Towards Instead of Away. Notice that the first three floors are the means for accessing all of the floors above, that means if you want to manage conflict well…

Fondness & Admiration Tips

Here are three easy ways to bolster your relationship by expressing your love in a positive way.

Need for Esteem

The research found that any healthy relationship had about a 5:1 ratio of positive expressions to negative expressions. That means…

Renew Your Couple Friendship

Love Maps are the spaces we reserve in our brain for our significant other. It’s the basis of all relationships and it’s a very important…

Know the One You Love

The basis of any good couple relationship is a great couple friendship. The couple friendship can be broken down into a few main pieces.

Take control of conflict in your relationship – If we’ll never solve the perpetual problem, what’s the point in talking about it?

What about these perpetual problems? Perpetual. Forever. On and on. Does that mean we’ll never solve them? That seems hopeless right? And two thirds of our problems are perpetual? Geez Louise, cut me a break!   Well, we’re in luck, Louise helped us out. And by Louise, I mean Dr. Gottman. His research shows that the issue isn’t that we aren’t solving these problems, it’s that we are mishandling them….

Take control of conflict in your relationship – Don’t taint the solution

In last week’s post, we talked about solvable and perpetual problems and how important it is to deal with them effectively in specific ways. So let’s say you now know that you’re dealing with a solvable problem, what do you do? What gets in the way of being able to solve these supposedly solvable problems? If there’s a solution available, we’ve got to learn how to keep it as pure and…

Take control of conflict in your relationship – What are we dealing with here?

Do you ever notice in your arguments with your partner that sometimes you are discussing the same thing over and over and it never seems to be solved? Other times, do you notice  it is new material and solvable problems? You’re not alone. In fact, research by Dr. John Gottman reveals that 69% of problems in relationships are perpetual problems. Wow, so two-thirds of our problems are never getting resolved?…

Love Languages

Last week we talked a little about an article on the power of touch and its ability to impact emotional intimacy and increase successful communication. Have you noticed that you’ve been particularly appreciative of this new habit of using touch to connect with others? Maybe physical touch is your love language. What’s that you say? Love languages? What’s a love language? Gary Chapman has written a book and developed a…

The Power of Touch

I recently read an article about the power of touch and the question struck me, how often do we take for granted that modality of communication? What is it about touch that makes it such a powerful and versatile language? And how can we utilize it to its utmost to get the most benefit? According to research, touch was considered a very accurate means of communicating emotion, something that in…

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